In love for the first time? Wait! Is it love? Here’s what you need to know


Teenage is a magical time. You begin to experience so many emotions you never thought existed. Everything is exciting – dressing up, the opposite sex, romance, love. And very often, you feel attracted to the opposite sex and start dreaming dreams. A fairy-tale romance, Valentine’s Day gifts, dating, physical intimacy — everything beckons you.

The problem is things may not always be what they seem. What might be just a crush or infatuation could appear to be undying love. So, how do you tell whether it is love or something else? There is no magic formula, but you could follow some pointers.

Love or physical attraction?

It is perfectly normal to feel physically attracted to boys if you are a girl and to girls if you are a boy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In teenage, your body goes through hormonal changes, and that makes you feel new emotions. This is a time when you are quick to imagine you are in love. But what you are feeling could simply be physical attraction. Your thoughts wander towards intimacy and sex, and you wrongly believe it to be love.

What you need to know and remember is that there really is no such thing as love at first sight. It is generally attraction at first sight. That intense longing you feel for someone when your eyes lock for the first time is not really love. It is just a normal urge to get closer to the opposite sex. Love is something that happens slowly. It takes time. Attraction is instant. So, those butterflies in your stomach when you meet a good-looking boy/girl for the first time are an indication of physical attraction, not love.

But do not rule love out!

Here’s a test for you. After having known somebody for some time, do you still feel happy just thinking about him/her? Do you smile to yourself at just the thought of holding hands and watching a movie? Do you feel that if ever you are in some trouble, or need some help, you would go straight to just that one person? And, if that person were in trouble, or needed some help, would you immediately rush to be there by him/her, regardless of what it takes? Do you think beyond the hormonal attraction, and see the other person for what s/he really is?

If your answer to most of these questions is yes, then hey, you are in love.

Lucky you!


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