Is it love or is it lust?

You are sure you have fallen in love – in fact, you have never been more sure of anything in your life. You exhibit all the signs – you think of him all the time, your heart races when he is around, you blush whenever his name is mentioned and you dream a lot. Mostly about him.

It has to be love, you think.

Well, here’s a little nugget – it could simply be lust.

You see, things are not always what they seem. What you think is undying love could simply be a stirring of the hormones. To put it more bluntly, it might just be lust. So, how do you tell whether it is love or something else? There is no magic formula, but you could follow some pointers.

Love or physical attraction?

It is perfectly normal to feel physically attracted to the opposite sex. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In teenage, your body goes through hormonal changes, and that makes you feel new emotions. This is a time when you are quick to imagine you are in love. But what you are feeling could simply be physical attraction. Your thoughts wander towards intimacy and sex, and you wrongly believe it to be love.

What you need to know and remember is that there really is no such thing as love at first sight. It is generally attraction at first sight. That intense longing you feel for someone when your eyes lock for the first time is not really love. It is just a normal urge to get closer to the opposite sex. Love is something that happens slowly. It takes time. Attraction is instant. So, those butterflies in your stomach when you meet a good-looking boy/girl for the first time are an indication of physical attraction, not love.

But let’s not rule out love

Here’s a test for you. After having known somebody for some time, do you still feel happy just thinking about him/her? Do you smile to yourself at just the thought of holding hands and watching a movie? Do you feel that if ever you are in some trouble, or need some help, you would go straight to just that one person?

And, if that person were in trouble, or needed some help, would you immediately rush to be there by him/her, regardless of what it takes? Do you think beyond the hormonal attraction, and see the other person for what s/he really is?

If your answer to most of these questions is yes, then hey, you are in love.


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